Popular Nigerian broadcaster Rotimi Martins, better known as Alariwo of Africa, has shared some very personal thoughts about how he raises his children and how his own childhood shaped the kind of father he became. In a heartfelt interview with Talk To B, the entertainer opened up about the mistakes he made as a parent and the important lessons he learned along the way.
Alariwo is known for being honest and direct, and this interview was no different. He talked openly about the challenges he faced while trying to be a good father and how his own upbringing played a big role in the way he first approached parenting.
Looking back at his childhood, Alariwo painted a clear picture of what life was like growing up in his family home. His parents had very different ways of dealing with their children, and these differences had a lasting effect on him.
“I was very tough. I wouldn’t blame myself but I blame my father because he was very strict. I love one thing about my dad, he made sure we had the basic education. My mother wasn’t educated but she was very calm, always embracing but my father was very aggressive,” he explained.
This description shows how two parents in the same house can have completely opposite approaches to raising children. While his father focused on discipline and making sure the children got a good education, his mother provided the warmth and emotional support that every child needs. The contrast between these two styles clearly stayed with Alariwo throughout his life.
Despite appreciating certain aspects of his father’s parenting, especially the emphasis on education, Alariwo recognized that the harsh methods used on him were not something he wanted to pass on to the next generation. He understood that being too strict and aggressive could cause more harm than good.
When Alariwo became a father himself, he initially followed the same tough approach that his father had used with him. However, over time, he began to see that this method was not working well with his own children. He realized that times had changed and that children needed a different kind of guidance.
“I don’t think it is wise for me to extend it to my children. Like they say, upbringing determines way you take it, but I was a bit too tough on my children and I realized that wasn’t the right way to go about it,” he admitted.
This honest admission shows how much Alariwo has grown as a person and as a father. It takes courage to admit when we are wrong, especially when it comes to something as important as raising children.
Now, Alariwo has completely changed his approach to parenting. He has learned that being gentle and understanding works much better than being harsh and demanding. His advice to other parents comes from his own experience of trying different methods.
“Sometimes it’s good to just handle things gently and don’t do things the way your parents did it but create a good relationship with your children,” he concluded….See More
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